My Friend is a Hypnotist

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This website is not merely about farming, but equally and maybe more it’s about turning dreams into reality. Gabriel Dye, a very close friend of mine did just that this past Sunday. My dream is farming, Gabriel’s dream is to become a professional hypnotist – not a medical hypnotist, but in the vein of a motivational speaker. I touched on the power of the subconscious in a recent book review I did for The Miracle Morning. Public speaking can be a quite lucrative and exciting career, and Gabriel’s inspiration Anthony Gailey was perhaps the best at combining motivation public speaking with the art of hypnosis. Gaily recently retired, and it’s Gabriel’s dream to pick up where he left off. His primary audience would be corporations, especially ones with sales teams that hire speakers for their conferences. There is a huge market for this, something I recently found out. What follows is Gabriel’s first interview as a hypnotist.

When did you know you wanted to become a hypnotist?

After seeing a stage hypnosis show in college, I immediately (the next day) began reading medical hypnosis books from my university library and practicing my way towards hypnotizing friends and unsuspecting folks on beaches in Massachusetts. Even though I’d occasionally watch hypnosis shows online, the idea of doing it myself never appealed to me. The whole profession seemed cheesy. Guys in sequin jackets making people flail around to the Nutcracker waltz, or talking about how the person next to you just farted (proceeded my sound effects into the microphone.) No thank you.
During a Youtube binge a couple of years ago, I stumbled across a clip of former motivational hypnotist Anthony Galie giving his presentation-style show, and was blown away by the pure class of his act. No dancing, no humiliation, no blow-up dolls. Galie mainly hypnotized corporate audiences and always incorporated lessons and takeaways about the power of the subconscious mind. In a hilarious way, of course.
Pretty much by the end of that first 5 or 6 minute clip, I knew I wanted to become a Galie-style hypnotist, and not just a guy with an interest. I mean, I had found my future profession. He just struck a chord in me.

Can you briefly explain what is going on when somebody is hypnotized?

Hypnosis happens when your imagination is guided so that it becomes your reality; when you focus on something so well and imagine something so vividly that is becomes real to you. A hypnotized person seems to latch onto ideas without any interference of critical thought. For example, on the ‘lighter’ side of hypnotic phenomena, you can suggest to someone that a water bottle weighs a thousand pounds and that they will be unable to lift it. To the subject’s bemusement, they will find they are unable to lift the bottle, even if given an incentive (like money) to do so. The subconscious mind has fully accepted that the bottle weighs a thousand pounds, and the conscious mind can’t do anything about it. You really have to see it to believe it.

Now that you’ve done your first show, what does that feel like?

Just to clarify, I’ve done smaller versions of shows in the past. I suppose this is the first ‘real’ one, because people had to buy tickets.
I was expecting it to feel like some cinematic triumph. Guy succeeds, everyone cheers, movie ends. Instead, it feels about as exciting as finishing the rough draft of an essay. Progress, definitely. But now the real work begins.

What was your favorite moment in the show?

My show is almost entirely an amalgamation of things I’ve read, watched and borrowed. That’s just the nature of hypnosis shows, especially in the beginning. You present what you’ve learned. However, there was one routine that I developed and can proudly put my own stamp on. It displays four hypnotic phenomena at once, in an organized yet hilarious way. And it worked!
To tack on another favorite ‘moment’: One of my goals for performing is to change peoples’ perceptions of the mind. Apparently a friend of a friend came to the show a skeptic, and left a ‘believer,’ which means, in some way, he’ll need to reconsider his own mind’s potential. Despite any other issues this ‘first’ show may have had, if I’ve reached people at a deeper level (obviously my hypnotic subjects, less obviously the audience), I can consider that a success.

What was your biggest fear before the show?

I was afraid no one would come. Simple as that. Hypnosis shows generally rely on large crowds. Statistically, larger crowds will have a higher percentage of very good hypnotic subjects. The smaller the crowd, the more work the hypnotist has to do. And in a worse case scenario, if no one comes, there’s no show.

What was your darkest, most panicky moment during the show?

For starters, as far as hypnosis shows in a pub setting are concerned, I had a dangerously low number of attendees. Cue the panic. To find subjects who eventually end up on the chairs on stage, I go through a number of ‘suggestibility tests,’ essentially group exercises that let me know who will most likely make the best hypnotic subjects. Usually two exercises is sufficient, and doesn’t bog down the pace of the show. Half-way through the second test, where normally I’d have my eyes on 5 or 6 candidates, I had… not one!! Nobody was responding! If no one responds, there’s no hypnosis! If there’s no hypnosis, there’s no show! Here I was, having proudly advertised Korea’s first expat hypnosis show, about to apologize, call the whole thing off.
The idea of leaving with my tail between my legs was much worse than the idea of slowing down the show. So I plowed on and went for a third suggestibility test and – thankfully! – found 5 people who were responding to the degree I needed.
That initial panic stayed with me pretty much until the end.

This blog which was created from your suggestion (thank you) is not only about farming, but equally about pursing and achieving your dream(s). You’ve just taken the biggest and most difficult step towards achieving yours. You’re not where you want to ultimately be, but you’re now officially a hypnotist. Can you describe what the process of turning dream into reality has been like for you? Any tips for others pursuing their dreams? 

For me, and I stress that this has been my experience, turning dreams into reality doesn’t feel like turning dreams into reality. It sounds like endorphins; it feels like cortisol. Dreaming gives instant satisfaction. There’s research demonstrating that imagining something (think: planning a vacation) is usually more rewarding (psychologically) than the actual thing we end up with.
This endeavor has had all the romance of a to-do list. That’s not to say I haven’t been excited along the way, but ‘do hypnosis show’ (doesn’t that sound awesome??) in reality looks something like this: find venue, figure out Facebook minutiae, coax designer-wife into making posters and fliers, find reasonably priced printer, join 30+ Facebook groups and advertise without looking like a spammer, attend functions with possibly-interested people… That was the first week.
However, all that being said, I feel incredible, self-directed, and alive. I’ve taken some time to kick my feet up, lean back and bask in the glory of having accomplished what I set out to accomplish, and now it’s back to work. Time for the next show!
Besides “Accept the above,” the only real tip I can give is to join or form a mastermind group. Napoleon Hill, author of “Think and Grow Rich”, developed the concept early in the 20th century. ‘Mastermind group’ is a cool way to describe a group of two or more people striving towards a common goal, helping each other navigate through challenges, keeping one another motivated, discussing hang ups, etc.
Once Wannabe Farmer James and I realized our conversations always seemed to drift into the realm of personal development and goal achievement anyway, we knew we had a mastermind group on our hands. My first show wouldn’t have happened without the accountability our ‘group’ has offered.
So on that note, I’ll end with a huge thanks to James, and a ‘good luck’ to anyone turning their own dreams into reality.

Final Thoughts of a Wannabe Farmer 

I was first introduced to hypnosis shows by Gabriel. He showed me some Youtube clips and I watched with heavy skepticism, but it was “interesting.” Any bit of skepticism I had swimming in my subconscious vanished after watching Gabriel’s show last Sunday. The turning point for me, and I think for the show, was when he pulled off something which is called a “binary pass/fail test” in the hypnosis world. It’s quite risky and a lot of stage hypnotists shy away from it because either it works or it doesn’t, and when it doesn’t work that never looks great for the hypnotist. Gabriel was able to get one of the people on stage to forget the number seven. When I heard him plant the suggestion I got nervous thinking “what’s going to happen if she says seven?” (if it doesn’t work). Well, it worked; she forgot the number seven existed. He demonstrated it by asking her some simple addition questions: Gabe:What is 3+2?Subject:5Gabe:What is 3+4?Subject:8Gabe:What is 4+4?” Subject:8“. He also did some sequence counting and sure enough she had completely forgotten the number seven and you could tell by her body language and the look on her face that she had no idea she had forgotten or that anything was out of the ordinary, aside from confusion as to why the audience was laughing. He went on from there to achieve other binary suggestions, the show was a success, and Gabriel Dye became a legitimate stage hypnotist.

As Gabriel mentioned in his answer to my last question, surrounding yourself with people who have a common goal (our goal is self improvement and achieving our dreams) is a key component to actually turning your dream into reality. A famous quote from Jim Rohn reads “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” I’ve heard this idea expressed in different ways, but the principle is the same – surround yourself with positive goal directed people and you’re much more likely to be a positive goal directed person and achieve whatever it is you’re after. Surround yourself with negative people who settle for mediocrity they will become the chains that hold you back from where you’re trying to go. I was happy to have helped Gabriel through conversation and support get to where he now is. As I’ve already mentioned he’s done the same for me. Value for value. Gabriel did a very brave thing going on stage in front of a restaurant full of people and putting it all on the line – but that’s what it takes to get what you want – putting it all on the line. He faced his fears directly, took on the challenge, navigated the adversity, and he won. He won because he prepared, and he believed he would be successful. The difficult part is cultivating belief, and that’s where the mastermind group comes into play. “Just believe and it will be.” It’s not that simple and today in a lot ways it’s become cliché, but the fact is the power of belief is undervalued and under explored.  Nobody has ever achieved success without truly believing they could. Gabriel’s helped me cultivate the belief in my dreams, and now that he’s taken this giant step forward in achieving his dream it’s going to be a joy to see it progress. I have no doubt that he will keep getting better and continuing along the path of turning his dream into reality.

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